New Parents Don’t Need Flowers, They Need FOOD.
Since everyone is all a flutter with the Royal Baby’s arrival (did you know Kate used HypnoBirthing?! The very same class yours truly
teaches!!), I figured I would point out a few things that new parents need.
Hint: Unless the plant you are sending is edible, it shouldn’t be sent.
I know that everyone wants to send flowers to the hospital or home after a baby arrives, but seriously, don’t do it. New parents don’t need flowers, they need food. A new mom isn’t going to remember to put your fucking daisies in a vase when she’s engorged, bleeding, sore, and emotional.
“But, but, I live far away!!! I can’t bring food!” If you have their address to send flowers, you have their address to send food. Websites like Grub Hub make it beyond easy to order food for someone from the comfort of your computer chair while Wikipedia-ing the members of the Real Housewives in your jammy-jams.
Now, before you want to bite my head off, I’ve been the person who sent flowers. After I had a kid myself, I realized that wasn’t the best thing to do. My son was born in late summer. My allergies were in full swing. All of those flowers made me want to die. When we left the hospital, our car was so filled with balloons and flowers, there was hardly enough room for us! It was stressful. I didn’t do anything with those flowers except throw them in the garbage or let them die a slow, smelly death on my counter top.
Yes, it’s the thought that counts, but when you are dealing with new parents, you need to use some common sense. What the hell are they going to do with 10 bouquets? 10 meals would do a hell of a lot more good to them.
Find out what they like to eat. If they have any dietary restrictions or food allergies. You have absolutely no idea how much a meal means to new parents. A newly nursing mom is STARVING. She’s also still healing from the birth, getting to know her baby, and getting to know her new body. Dad is trying to be supportive and figure out his role as a father. Taking one thing off of their minds (what they are going to eat for dinner) can make those early days so much more bearable.
If you live near the new royal family in your life, make a casserole and drop it off. You want to make them something that they can throw in the oven easily. Something that isn’t going to require any more effort than turning on the stove and getting plates and utensils.
Nursing mamas need lots of protein, healthy fats, and need to be well hydrated. Oatmeal is said to help with lactation, so make mama some oatmeal cookies for dessert! She and baby will both thank you.
If you want to be amazingly awesome, do this little trick- throw a clean cloth and a spray bottle of an eco-friendly cleaner in your purse. When you drop off the dinner, ask if you can use the bathroom. While you are in there, quickly wipe down the bathroom counters and mirrors. I guarantee it will make the new mama cry tears of gratitude.
So, in short- flowers bad, food good.
Help a new mama out.